MARRIAGE AND ROMANCE

Marriage is a legally recognized relationship, established by a civil or religious ceremony, between two people who intend to live together as sexual and domestic partners. Marriage is more than the private relationship between two people in a marriage. Marriage is a social institution that provides society with the very foundation of civilization.  In order for marriage to remain the cornerstone of civilization it is important that society supports it.  Marriage has proven itself indispensable to the nurturing of the young. Strong marriages create strong families and families create a society. Marriage is of public importance and affects far more than the two people who wed.  Marriage is the most basic and the oldest of the three foundational institutions of Western civilization “Marriage, Government and the Church”. Marriage is the most basic of the three because without children there would be no need for a government and even a church. Fruit of a marriage makes the government and the church. Marriage to nature cannot be overstated. It benefits the married couple, their children, economy, and also the nation as a whole. Strong marriages give a strong nation. When our marriages are weak, so is our nation. Robert George wrote an article in First Things magazine entitled what Marriage Is—And What It Isn't in which he stated, "The bodily unity of spouses is possible because human males and females, like other mammals, unite organically when they mate—they form a single reproductive principle.  Although reproduction is a single act, in humans (and other mammals) the reproductive act is performed not by individual members of the species but by a mated pair as an organic unit. What is unique about marriage is that it truly is a comprehensive sharing of life, a sharing founded on the bodily union made uniquely possible by the sexual complementarity of man and woman—a complementarity that makes it possible for two human beings to become, in the language of the Bible, one flesh—and thus possible for this one-flesh union to be the foundation of a relationship in which it is ­intelligible for two persons to bind themselves to each other in pledges of permanence, monogamy, and fidelity." Romance is a spirit or feeling of adventure, excitement, the potential for heroic achievement, and the exotic. Romance exists in your marriage when you both attracted to each other or desire each other and care for other. The combination of attraction and compassion create the feeling of being “in love “with your mate.

When a man and woman first fall in love before marriage, their romantic feelings for each other are often based on infatuation, which is an inordinate belief that the object of one's desire can readily meet all of one's relationship needs. Infatuation soon fades off. It must then, if the feelings of romance are to continue, be replaced by the knowledge that your mate is indeed doing his or her best to meet your relationship needs. As its basis changes from infatuation to knowledge, romance remains pleasurable and exciting. It also becomes more calming and comforting without the obsessive component of infatuation, with its uncertainty and anxiety. Many studies have shown that romantic love, with its myriad rewards, can last in marriage. For romance to continue in a marriage beyond the infatuation stage, each partner simply needs to get up to speed in meeting the relationship needs of each other.

We all want deeper romance in our marriages, but we something assume that our spouse knows what we want and how we feel without talking about it. Romance evolves both relational and sexual intimacy.

Keeping your marriage alive, healthy and romantic can be one of the greatest challenges when you are raising a family. Simply having enough time for each other can be a challenge.

If you want to increase romance in marriage, you must create mutual feelings of caring and attraction. You can do this by meeting your spouse’s most importance relationship needs and helping him/her to meet yours.

As you invest in your mate by making efforts to meet his or her relationship needs, your feelings of compassion for your mate naturally increase, and your mate naturally feels more attraction “desire” for you. This increased desire helps motivate your mate to meet your relationship needs, and the feelings of compassion and attraction become mutual. This is how romantic love “Romance” grows in a marriage.

Like a tender plant, your mate’s romantic nature can fully blossom only in a nurturing environment. You are the gardener; learn how to cultivate your spouse’s romantic nature by visiting the garden of romance.

Life has taught most married couples that marriage is not really about living in bliss together and always. The romantic flame can dim over the long term as both sides increasingly take the other for granted and cease to make any special effects. Most people we agree with me that in your relationship right now, it’s the point where you have reached a safe but unexciting and unromantic period.

So what can be done to create some romance again? The first thing is to look at your appearance , you may feel that you no longer need to put in the effort to be attractive for your partner, but it’s often the first sign that things are going in a  positive direction . Simple things such as looking smart, smelling nice, can be enough to steer things into a positive direction again when you make your partner feel like they are important to you, everything change for better. It’s a basic human need we all need to feel from those closest to us and it inspires us to give our best in return.

Find some future dreams to be excited about together and work for, find common hopes to share –get excited about what the future could have in store for you both sharing intimate dreams creates a bound and can close distance very quickly and create a romantic lifestyle to work towards.

The biggest mistake most spouses’ make is looking to your partner to create romance in the relationship. It just doesn’t work like that, you have to it yourself. You are responsible for your relationship and have the power to become pro-active and take action today. Life is short; you deserve to have a marriage full of romance and shared dreams about the future. It’s up to you to create it.